Musings

"The one you love and the one who loves you are never, ever the same people." - Chuck Palahniuk

Throughout the day, I do a lot of things. Sometimes, I'm in class, sometimes, I'm walking. But most of the time, I'm walking. Walking alone, well, it gives me a lot of time to think. I have a lot of things that I think about, and sometimes, I think to myself, what if I write my musings? Just random thoughts that float through my head during transitory phases.

Happiness is only as good as how we appreciate it. If we are happy, we tend to want more, and when happiness dissipates, we find ourselves desperate for more. Happiness is also independent. We are not happy because of a certain person, we are happy because we choose to be happy. People, things, and events are just objects we link our happiness to in order to rationalize it. To answer the big question, "Why are you happy?". Most people do not realize that happiness is erratic. Sometimes it's there, sometimes it's not. So we should appreciate every moment we are happy.

There is no such thing as forever. Forever is an optimistic lie spread by the desperate for something more. But what is there, when we know everything will meet its end? There is reason. Having no forever gives us a reason to seize the day, tell the people we love how much we love them, to be happy, to smile more often, to love more people, and most importantly, to come to terms of our existence and love every second we are alive. After all, the greatest inspiration is a due date.

What you mean to people is never what you think. To some people, you mean more to them than you'll ever know, and to some people, you mean less to them than you know. Sometimes, the former are the people we ignore, and the latter are the people we chase. But it's our wanting. To mean something to the people that mean so much to us. To be a part of their life, to be more than just a face in a sea of faces they will encounter. But the sad truth always is no matter how much effort we exert, how much we make ourselves mean something to them, they just don't feel the same way.

There is no such thing as "human nature". The human psyche is never restricted to statistics. Every human being is unique, there are no perfect copies of anybody. And that is what makes the world a better place. If everyone can come to terms that they are unique and special, only then will we realize that we're so caught up in searching for the person that is the most common with us, when there is none. Humans are dynamic, adaptive, and transient. We're never the same person as we were yesterday. And contrary to statistical laws, there will never come a time in a timeline long enough for all of the people to be the same as each other.

Appreciate people's effort. It doesn't matter whether you asked them to do it or not, but it is the action that speaks louder than words. Some people walk through hell just to get you what you want, and for you to ignore that effort, it's somehow rude to ignore what they went through just because you didn't ask for it. If you give these people who exert so much effort for you just one chance, I'm sure you won't be disappointed. Because they work so hard to make you happy, I'm sure it will always be the same case when you give them the chance. Like our mothers would say to us as children, "Why are you saying no, but you haven't tried it yet?"